The Convoluted Equation: Finding the Difference Between Fun and the One

As women, it is seemingly our nature to complicate our own emotions, by making plans. We are programmed to be obsessed with the idea of romance, and those of us who aren't are "new-age" or considered "modern." However this week, I can not help but wonder, is being resistant to archaic ideals about romance really modern? Or is it- dare I say- much more fun?

Every single time I've found a significant other, I seem to start making all of these ridiculous plans, and wondering; what will my friends think? What will my parents think? How will we work if we last until this point, and what about if we last until then? The sad truth is, I've made all of these plans but for what? It's never worked out. Here I sit and write to my readers completely single. Carefree, and happy. Wait...I'm single, carefree, and happy. I am not making plans currently, because there's no one to make plans for.

Now here's an idea- what if I applied this attitude to a relationship? What if, I went into something, NOT expecting a proposal. What if I recognized that I was 19 years old, and not ready to settle down. What if I stopped choosing people for their futures, and started focusing on my present? Perhaps things would be better. Perhaps some of the disappointment would wear away, and perhaps I'd stop worrying about what people look like on paper, throw away their resumes, and start seeing what they're actually working with.

Sometimes, the people we choose in the long run, didn't seem like they'd be relationships that would run very long. We keep looking for this "happy ending", this "grand gesture"- but all of this waiting is just a way to miss out on a happy middle. Maybe our nights aren't ending with kisses in central park, or a surprise knock on our door in torrential downpour- but maybe it's because we're not letting them.

Sometimes having fun, is more important than finding the one. Sometimes, the one is the fun one. Plans fall through, but happiness never does. People will come and go out of our lives, so why worry about it now? When the time comes for an engagement ring, by all means sit down and evaluate. However if you're laughing, and having a good time...fun> finding the one.

Love Always,

The Dime